2007 Breast Cancer 3 Day

Monday, June 14, 2010

Update for my dearest Fran

Well it is now June 14th and Fran's last post was My 16th. As many of you know who have followed Fran's blog she is very faithful to share her heart and lifes experiences through this medium. It has not been due to her lack of having something to say but more her ability to say what she wanted to say.

The facts are that she is not in any shape to post. The treatment plan she was on was not successful. The cancer found a way to mutate and continue on its rampage of her body. She is currently under Hosparus care and we are keeping her as pain free as possible.

It is with a heavy heart that I am posting for her at this time. We have tried to have her dictate what she wants to say but that has not been possible. A side effect of having liver failure from the cancer is having major fatigue making her sleep most of the day, and then the effects of the pain meds compound that more.

This is so hard for me to write about my best friend and wife. We have had a great life together with so much to be thankful for. The daughter we share is the highlight of our life together and is Fran's crowning achievement and gift to this world.

As Fran's time here with us comes to an end she is confident in the life that she is looking forward to which is hope in her eternal life to come. Her faith in her Saviour Jesus Christ has always been central to who she is but she has never forced her self on anyone but she has not kept her faith a secret either.

I will make one last post soon on her behalf, but for now know that she is at peace.

99 comments:

  1. Ed, we love your family dearly. Hurting with and praying for you and your beautiful Fran. Please hug her for me and remind her that her life and faith have forever changed countless lives...including mine.

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  2. Amy KrauseJune 14, 2010

    Thankyou for the update. I am so sorry to hear this. I first "met" Fran on the Five and a Row boards and feel like she is a good friend,even though we have never met in real life.
    Praying for your family during this difficult time.
    Amy

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  3. Thank you for the update. I'm sorry.
    May the time that God gives you all be filled with hope and peace.
    In His love and with my prayers,
    Anita Terpstra (FIAR)

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  4. Fran, you came to my mind this weekend and I spent some time praying for you and your family. Now I know why. Continuing to lift you up in prayer . . .

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  5. Praying for you and your family.

    Sheri (FIAR)

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  6. I'm so sorry. Praying for you all during this time. Fran and your family are loved by many and she has touched many lives.

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  7. I'm so sorry. Praying for your family during this time.

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  8. Fran, I am so sorry. May you feel the presence of the LORD during this time...may you and your family experience His peace....

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  9. I have no words. I am so very sorry. Know, Fran, that your life and faith have impacted me and countless others in so many ways. Praying for each of you.

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  10. Fran, thank you for sharing your life with us on the Five in a Row boards. I'm praying for you and your family.

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  11. Ed, I'm so sorry. I was blessed to meet and share several meals with Fran at the FIAR conference 2 years ago. Her love for your family has always shined. I give thanks that she found such a loving husband to care for her and grieve for you and the girls. Praying.

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  12. I love you, sweet Fran.

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  13. I'm so sorry to hear this news.

    Fran, thank you for being a light to all of us on the FIAR boards. You are, and have long been, an inspiration to me. Thank you.

    Ed, thank you for the update. Praying for you and for your family.

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  14. Ed, we are so sorry. Please know that we love you guys and are praying for you and yours. Please give Fran a hug from us.

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  15. Praying for your family during this MOST difficult time...I am SO sorry Ed. (((hugs)))

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  16. Ed, praying for you all.

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  17. Praying for all of you at this very difficult time.

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  18. Becky in CA (former FIAR)June 15, 2010

    I am another who started praying for Fran after "meeting" on the FIAR boards. Keeping you and your family in prayers.

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  19. Praying for all of you.

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  20. Sierra St. JohnJune 15, 2010

    Though I do not know you- my heart is broken for your family. My prayers for all of you, May God bless and comfort you.

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  21. Thank you for this post that must have been so hard to write. I am so glad she knows our Father and will be with him. I am so sorry for the loss you are facing. (((hugs)))

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  22. Thanks for letting us know how to pray for you guys. I'm so sorry! Though I haven't met Fran in person, just on fiar, her witness and testimony clearly shine through. May the Lord give you strength and encouragement as you face today, and the difficult days to come.

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  23. Praying for your dear family.

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  24. I only know Fran through the FIAR boards but I hurt for your family. May God give your family extra measures of faith and strength at this time.

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  25. I am another FIAR friend of Fran's. Please tell her I am praying for her. ((Hugs)) ~ Jackie

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  26. Ed - Fran has been on my heart as well. Will keep all of you in my prayers.

    Jennifer (in VA from FIAR)

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  27. There are no words, Ed, so I am trusting the Holy Spirit to intervene with groans that words cannot express! Praying and grieving with you, but rejoicing that sweet Fran will soon be welcomed into the arms of her Saviour ~ pain-free!

    With much love!

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  28. Praying, praying, praying for my sweet sweet friend and her dear family. With much love from another FIAR friend and conference roomie. I love you.

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  29. Thank you for the update. Fran is well loved by so many of us that she touched. Praying that God will meet your needs and comfort your heart.
    ~ Sheryl (in NH from FIAR)

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  30. Ed, what a difficult thing to have to write. My heart is hurting for you guys and I am keeping you in my prayers. May you know the God of all comfort as never before. Fran, I am thankful to have known you. You are beautiful!

    Scarlett (FIAR)

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  31. Fran has also been coming to my mind. I'm so sorry and am keeping all of you in my prayers.

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  32. I think of Fran all the time. Her sweet spirit will always be with me. Praying for the Lord's mercy and that He will comfort each one of you.

    Ronette

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  33. Oh Ed and Fran...I had no idea it was so bad so quickly. I am just sitting here crying and so very heartbroken for you both. I just don't even know what to say. I am praying...

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  34. I came here from Candace's blog, and I want both Ed & Fran to know that I am praying for you both this morning and for your daughter.

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  35. AnonymousJune 15, 2010

    STUPID CANCER!

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  36. I'm so sorry Ed. Please know we've been praying for Fran and your whole family. May the Lord be merciful at this time.

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  37. Christy MitchellJune 15, 2010

    Just one more FIAR sister, sitting here with tears welling up in my eyes for our sweet Fran. Life is so hard sometimes, and cancer is ALWAYS evil. I HATE it! But oh how wonderful to know that our human eyes can only see our very short time here on this earth but our hearts KNOW that Fran's life is only just about to begin!

    The Mitchell family is praying here in Kentucky for all of you, for Fran to be at peace and in as little pain as possible, for you, dear Ed, the man she loved so passionately, and for precious Emma and Eden, whom we've come to know and love through Fran's words, that God will comfort them and somehow soften the sting for their little hearts.

    From just one of MANY FIAR sisters, we love you and are so sorry your heart is hurting so bad. Ours are as well.

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  38. Ed, I'm so sorry to read this. Fran's faith and grace through this trial have been a witness to so many. I rejoice for her, knowing that she will be welcomed into her Saviour's arms with a resounding, "Well done, my good & faithful servant!" Praying for your whole family during this difficult time.

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  39. Thank you for sharing your heart and your sad news with us. Fran's love for her family and for the Lord has always shone brightly. Praying for God's comfort and peace as only He can give it.

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  40. Praying for the only ONE who can comfort, to show you HIS amazing love and gift of peace in the midst of so much pain. I am so sorry.

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  41. Robin in ColoradoJune 15, 2010

    I "know" Fran through the Five in a Row boards. I have no words, other than prayers for you all.

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  42. Praying for you all during this time and knowing that Papa is right there by your side weeping with you all.

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  43. Praying for your family during this difficult time.

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  44. Debbie WankerJune 15, 2010

    I am so sorry. Fran is a light that will not be quenched. She has been a shining example to me of strength. Though I have never met her IRL, but I feel I have known her in spirit.
    I feel deep sorrow, but also joy for her home coming. Goodbye for now sweet Fran, until we meet on the other side.

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  45. Ed and Fran,
    I am another FIAR sister who is heartbroken with you and your family. Praying for you during this difficult time. Tell Fran we love her.

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  46. Thank you Fran for sharing your life, faith and love to the FIAR moms. Praying for you and your family.

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  47. Merrilee MorseJune 15, 2010

    Another FIAR friend who just wants to thank God for Fran and her life and testimony. My prayers are with you.

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  48. Lis in MA (FIAR)June 15, 2010

    Oh, dear Ed and Fran, and Emma and Eden~
    Praying for you all, that the God of all Peace and Comfort surrounds you in His loving arms. "Transitions" are tough~ eternal ones most of all.
    Loving you, even tho' I only know you through cyber-space~

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  49. Dear Fran~Thank you so much for allowing me to watch your journey, both homeschool and cancer, from afar. You are a blessing to many! Dear Ed and family~I am just so sad to read this update. May God continue to be your strength.

    "Lisalyn"
    Lisa Schaffer
    (FIAR)

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  50. Take a picture of her hands.... it will mean so much in the future. To know and remember the love that was served through them in nurturing and caring for those she loves so dearly. Please, you won't regret taking a photo of her hands....... God's richest blessings and peace in the midst of this difficult situation. Know that many, many are praying for you all....

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  51. Praying for your family.

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  52. AnonymousJune 15, 2010

    Fran's journey here on earth is almost over, no one knows more than you Ed what she went though. Her love for her family is evident and inspiring. It says alot about you and your children. Her dignity and grace through this aweful process says alot about her love of the Lord. God's love for His children can be plainly seen in Fran's life and her impending death. May you have God's peace as you tend to Fran in her last days. And may we all rejoice that she will be with the Lord soon and free from her pain.

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  53. My heart just aches for you all! Fran has been a blessing to many and I know the Lord will praise her as a good and faithful servant. Praying for your family during this very difficult time.

    Thank you for taking the time to update us, Ed.

    Jessica Vega (FIAR forums)

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  54. Another FIAR sister who is heartbroken for you but am grateful for the hope we all share. May He lift you up and carry you all through the pain. Praying for His strength and comfort. ~Meredith

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  55. Joining my FIAR sisters in prayers for your family. I'm so very sorry.
    Fran's life inspired so many people. Praying for all of you during this difficult time.
    Michele (FIAR)

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  56. AnonymousJune 15, 2010

    Ohhhh....Fran's life is such an inspiration to so many...please tell her we can't wait to see her...through the internet...we all know her...BUT in heaven we will all see her face to face....

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  57. Allie from FIARJune 15, 2010

    Another FIAR sister whose heart is breaking for you all now. Praying God's Love overwhelms you with His Comfort. I know He has His ministering angels caring for Fran right now.

    I am so thankful to know that Fran belongs to Jesus Christ.

    But now, O Jacob,(Fran) listen to the Lord who created you.
    O Israel, the one who formed you says,
    “Do not be afraid, for I have ransomed you.
    I have called you by name; you are mine.
    When you go through deep waters,
    I will be with you.
    When you go through rivers of difficulty,
    you will not drown.
    When you walk through the fire of oppression,
    you will not be burned up;
    the flames will not consume you. Isaiah 43:1-2

    "He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love." Song of Solomon 2:4

    Ed and Fran, I am so sorry for the hurt and grief you are feeling now. Please keep in the front of your mind and I know it's written on your heart... the sorrow and sufferings of this world PALES in comparisan to the Glory that's to come.

    "In Your presence there is fullness of joy." Psalm 16:12

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  58. Joining the other FIAR families as we pray for your family. May God's Peace surround you all.
    Rebecca T

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  59. Praying for you and your family at this difficult time. I know Fran thru the FIAR boards and always enjoyed reading her blog.
    May God comfort you and your daughters as He calls Fran home.
    Marsha

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  60. Dear Ed and Fran,
    I am so sad for you all. I'm praying for your family. I am amazed and humbled by your sweet faith. Thank you for sharing your life with us on the FIAR boards,
    Rebecca Davis

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  61. On our knees for our sweet Fran and your family, Ed. Her courage and love have been such a blessing on the FIAR forums. We're grieving to think her time is near, and yet comforted to know in Who's arms she'll be resting.

    Praying His peace beyond measure is tangible for you as you all go through this.

    Lisa Schafer
    (Another FIARower)

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  62. So sorry to hear this - praying fro that peace that passes all understanding.

    Susan in Kentucky
    (FIAR)

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  63. God be with you till we meet again.

    Polly Olsen (FIAR)

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  64. Fran has always been so much "older" than her age. She has always known the right thing to say at the right time. She has been the best mom that any child could ever ask for. Her children will miss her sweet face and the understanding of what they always needed. Her husband, Ed, will miss everything about her. Her sense of humor, her love for her family, and her love for her Lord. She will have run the good race and finally to have won it. We, her family, will miss her so much and I cannot image a day going by that she will not come to mind. I am so glad that she accepted Jesus Christ as her Saviour and know that she will be there to greet us when our day comes. I, for one, cannot wait to see her again. All of my love forever.....Mom

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  65. I don't know Fran personally from the FIAR board but I know we are sisters in Christ and I have prayed for healing and God's will. Fran I pray for your peace and the peace of your family.

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  66. Praying for you and your family. What a great comfort to know she is saved! It means so much to know when you lose a loved one they have eternal life with Jesus waiting for them on the other side!

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  67. May the dear Lord comfort and keep your beautiful family in His loving care as you live these sacred, final, and difficult days together. I am sure that if your beloved Fran could read her own blog today, she would smile in knowing that you truly are her best friend.
    I have never been to Fran's blog until finding it in someone's post on The Homeschool Lounge today. I am blessed and glad that I've had even this one visit.
    GOD BLESS YOU.

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  68. I am praying for you, sweet Fran, and your family.

    molly in cr

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  69. Oh, I am so sad to hear this news. I met Fran at a FIAR conference and she was so wonderful and sweet and a blessing to be her friend. Your family will continue to be in our prayers.

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  70. Fran,

    I am honored to have met you. It is with sorrow that I say good-bye and with great anticipation of knowing I will say hello when we meet again. What a sweet fragrance of Jesus you have been.

    Vickie/NC

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  71. "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

    I love you Fran!!

    always n forever your sister-n-law, janie konick doerr

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  72. Another FIAR sister, praying for you sweet Fran. Thank you for taking the precious time to update us, Ed. I am so so sorry. You have been such a huge blessing and are an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us...

    Rachel (FIAR)

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  73. My scripture reading this morning happened to include Proverbs 31. I could only think of Fran as I read the words:
    "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."
    Thank you "Mom" for sharing your words about Fran.
    Continuing to pray.
    Sarah in FL
    (FIAR)

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  74. AnonymousJune 16, 2010

    I love you mom. You gave me everything a son needs.

    Elliott-Jude

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  75. Oh, my heart breaks,but through the pain of loss I praise my God for allowing me to know and love this amazing woman, and the Konick family. I thank Him for allowing me the gift of knowing Fran, her heart and spirt.
    May I serve better by never forgetting the gift. Rest in peace my dear Fran. Well done.

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  76. My heart is broken for my brother and his children, and our family. We have lost such an incredible woman, but she is with our Father in Heaven and at peace. No more pain; no more sorrow; no more worry ... we will miss her love; her smile; her joy ... however, we will keep her alive in our hearts always. With much love, your sister-in-law, Theresa Konick

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  77. I am truly sorry. I wish I had adequate words. It's amazing how, having never met someone in person, you could love her and know how sweet she was by her encouraging spirit and sweet words. Fran will be missed.

    Lynn

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  78. I am sorry for your loss.

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  79. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    Dear Fran, Our world will grieve the loss of you. The Heavens will rejoice with your presence. Thank you for being an inspiration. We love you and will never forget you.
    Beth

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  80. Rhoda (FIAR)June 17, 2010

    I'm so sorry for your loss...your family is in my prayers.

    I keep thinking of the song "Home Free" by Wayne Watson..."at the ultimate healing, we will be 'Home Free'" I've posted the lyrics below...hope you don't mind.
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    I'm trying hard not to think you unkind
    But Heavenly Father
    If you know my heart
    Surely you can read my mind
    Good people underneath the sea of grief
    Some get up and walk away
    Some will find ultimate relief

    Chorus
    Home Free, eventually
    At the ultimate healing we will be Home Free
    Home Free, oh I've got a feeling
    At the ultimate healing
    We will be Home Free

    Out in the corridors we pray for life
    A mother for her baby, A husband for his wife
    Sometimes the good die young
    It's sad but true
    And while we pray for one more heartbeat
    The real comfort is with you

    You know pain has little mercy
    And suffering's no respecter of age, of race or position
    I know every prayer gets answered
    But the hardest one to pray is slow to come
    Oh Lord, not mine, but Your will be done

    Let it be...

    Chorus
    Home Free, eventually
    At the ultimate healing gonna be Home Free
    Home Free, oh it's more than a feeling
    At the ultimate healing
    Gonna be Home Free

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  81. Ed- Jane and I have followed your story from afar this year, thinking of you and Fran often and praying for you both. We were honored to meet you both and we look forward to seeing Fran's beautiful smile again someday. She was an extraordinary woman in so many ways. We will continue to pray for you in the difficult days ahead.

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  82. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    I am so sorry.

    Mary FL
    from FIAR

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  83. I am so sorry!

    Jennifer (in VA from FIAR)

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  84. 13But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.

    14For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

    15For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

    16For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

    17Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord. ~1 Thessalonians 4, KJV

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  85. I'm in tears and so sad and sorry for your family. Will continue to remember you in our prayers. (((((Ed & family)))))

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  86. It's been an honor to pray for Fran even thought I only knew her through the FIAR boards. I'm continuing to pray that God is merciful to you as you grieve. Remember that Fran is not "lost." Lost is when you don't know where someone is. I'm so sorry.

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  87. My sincerest condolences to each member of your family. It is clear that Fran was well supported and loved. Praying for you all in your loss~

    Lisalyn
    (FIAR)

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  88. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    Stupid Cancer!

    Though Fran's voice is quiet now, her spirit echoes still...

    G-d Bless~Gitel (FIAR)

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  89. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    i am so sorry
    i hate cancer

    april (FIAR)

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  90. Kristen (from FIAR)June 17, 2010

    So very sorry. :(

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  91. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    Crying here for Fran's family. I'll miss your posts and your lovely avatar, Fran! No great words of wisdom, just I'm sorry and praying...

    Shay~Christie~
    FIAR Sister

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  92. I am so very sorry. As everyone knows, Fran will be missed by many...

    Melanie from FIAR

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  93. Grieving with hope...and praying for Ed and those sweet girls. Praying for the other family members who will miss her so much as well.

    Jen in SC
    FIAR

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  94. Our family is praying for you all. I'm so sorry.

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  95. AnonymousJune 17, 2010

    I am so very, very sorry.
    Praying and praying and praying for your peace and comfort.

    Ami K.
    ~FIAR Sister

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  96. Dear Ed,
    Thank you for sharing wife with us during this time. It is an honor to have our paths cross during this lifetime. I pray the story that you and Fran began together will continue through the lives around you. May you and your family know the comfort that only your soul can receive.
    May His peace be your pillow as you lay your head this evening. And may the love of God saturate your heart.
    Sincerely, Ernestine

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  97. Kathy WhiteJune 17, 2010

    Psalm 116:15 - PRECIOUS in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints.

    Praying for you during this difficult time.

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